If they do, then I encourage you to post comments to this blog as a way to explain, explore, or describe what that's like for you. It's crucial that they "get it"!
Unfortunately, a lot of conversations on this topic only take place in the heat of the moment. Under such conditions a lot goes unsaid, isn't thought out, and gets side-tracked by defensiveness.
If you want to remain anonymous, you can always use your soap-opera star name: your middle name plus the name of the street where you grew up:>).
But seriously, compulsive sexual behavior involves such a high level of disconnect and denial that, as you know, you really need to keep repeating the message.
My website: http://www.resolutioncounseling.org/
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Addiction therapy can assist you with your desire on renewing your life by making it easier for you to undergo with the process of healing and recovery.
ReplyDeleteThank you Dan for offering this excellent information. It is refreshing to see such clear and supportive info on an oft avoided problem.
ReplyDeleteSex addiction caused the ultimate demise of my 20 year marriage. Although, I was not aware of what the problem was for most of the marriage. I thought there must be something I was doing wrong to make my husband angry and distant. However, it became clear later that it was about his need to distance (through conflict) so he could feel justified in acting out his addiction.
As with most addictions, it was progressive and eventually reached the point of regular visits to same sex prostitutes. To my knowledge, he has not sought help.
This insidious addiction caused devastating pain to myself and our children. Although they don't know about the addiction, the anger and distance was directed at them as well. They were often confused and hurt by his behavior and what they perceived as abandonment.
As you mention, this disease is grievous for the addict too. They can feel helpless and out of control with the behavior. So, I applaud the education, help and support you provide as well as the opportunity for positive change you offer to those effected by this disease.
Thank you for what you do!
Dear "whoville",
ReplyDeleteThanks so much for sharing your story!
What advice would you offer to a spouse in the midst of what you've already been through?
Best wishes,
Dan